Unveiling Dominance and Mastering Submission

I have a weakness for submissives who are firmly in the slave category of BDSM. I love total power exchange. I’m not the kind who gets off simply on femdom sessions with a guy acting sub, tending to his fantasies for an hour then getting back to ‘normal’ roles. Much preferred is the day-to-day reality of being a dominant woman to a 100% of the time submissive man, who will embrace the chains.

Slaves aren’t attractive romantically. Instead, I am aroused by total submission and obedience. My dominance is just one facet making up my entire character, and not something which is just roleplay or an act.

Embrace the Chains: Total Surrender

So what’s the difference between a session sub and the slaves I enjoy? I have a fetish for TPE. It stands for Total Power Exchange. In my opinion, the term is a little misleading. As there is the unspoken assumption that the man has the power and the woman doesn’t.

That total power exchange switches it around so the Domme has control. A shocker for most in this heteronormative “Christian Grey is everything a woman could ever want” world. I tend to see TPE as Total Power Relinquishment instead. But TPE is the understood, commonly used, and acknowledged term in the BDSM community. So total power exchange it is.

It’s hot when a guy (or potentially a girl, but I tend to prefer total power exchange dominating a man as in my experience women submit differently and more sexually) will embrace the chains and give up absolutely everything for me. Controlling their lives, from what they eat, drink, wear, spend, and of course, locking up cock in a chastity cage.

Beyond Control: Embrace the Chains

Don’t get me wrong, I love the idea of two cocks and a cunt. I don’t want the brain strain of having to micromanage several slaves. God knows I have enough to do in my everyday life without directing a slave’s every single movement. But to ask permission to do something. Embrace the chains, go somewhere, spend money, or touch themselves… that’s hot to me.

At first, I thought total power exchange was realized, accepted, and established. Only for it to be lip service alone. The creative, intelligent slave is who I find attractive. As a Domme, saying the right words in the right order comes easily.

Power Play: The Dynamics of Total Power Exchange Relationships

It’s all about the “Oh, I’d do anything for you Mistress.” Then follow it up with an imaginative description of just what they’d be willing to do. Or are offering to do. Instead of leaving it at the vague ‘well, just, anything‘ that frustrates me to hear.

Anyone can blurt out an ‘anything’ in a statement. To embrace the chains, it takes creativity and skill to then describe a scene, action, or gesture. Which causes my Mistress tendrils of arousal to unfurl and warm to the concept and the slave.

Like I said, although these slaves who capture my interest have succeeded in moving past being immediately ignored, they can quickly lose my attention if they lack creativity. What really gets my juices flowing is a slave who can tell me what they want. Come back next week for the embrace the chains conclusion.