My Power, Authority, and Control.

When I give you a command, I expect you to follow through. Total Power Exchange to me does not mean that a slave will simply sit as an automaton. Waiting to be instructed and useless otherwise. Nor will they spout the right-sounding words without any intention of following up with action. I own bitches, and you will do what I say.

In My Realm, I Own Bitches

This is simply my understanding. My attraction is to the total power exchange world, but many others will view and understand it differently. No doubt. I have Mistress and Domme friends who love to micro-manage their slaves. Others just want a service bottom or part-time sub for sessions. The D/s roles simply are not there and they revert to being friends/acquaintances who embrace the chains.

I’m not here to tell you right and wrong in D/s in general just what is right or wrong for slaves and submissives who approach me and want to serve me. As the Dominant in a BDSM Femdom relationship, it is expected that I set the rules about how the relationship will progress and will clearly communicate the standards. I expect the slave/submissive to meet my demands and understand that I own bitches.

In my life, being useful is the main thing I want from a slave. Earning my own income and having my own romantic long-term relationship while juggling business and a family doesn’t leave a lot of time for tending to the fantasies and sex needs of men connecting with me hoping for the D/s ‘porn’ equivalent of a quickie.

I Own Bitches: How I Navigate Power

I’m not ‘in it’ for any payment-per-hour, it’s not a job for me. I don’t meet slaves for shiny-clad corporal punishment sessions on the basis that you have an hour to spare this Tuesday afternoon and have ‘always wanted some hot bitch to spit in my face.‘

To be blunt, I don’t care what your fantasy is. I own bitches, and when I’m connecting with you as a Mistress or Domme I care about what you can do for me and how you can improve my life and mood. I don’t need you in my life. There is little you can add to it aside from offering to complete tasks that take my time and energy and therefore make things easier and happier for me.

My Pleasure and Command

Some jobs I require from my slaves seem dull. Clean my oven, sort my recycling, go grocery shopping, be an on-call Uber, and wash my clothes. Above all be available and ready to help in any way I want, that’s what I want from a slave.

Finally, to willingly and happily give up pride and ego and any control over themselves in order to make me happier and to make my life easier. Relinquishing any idea of control of their own life and that they are anything but my slave–an actual slave. Not just a guy in the ‘right’ outfit with a collar on for an hour is what total power exchange means in my life and what I’m really seeking from the FemDom relationships I commit to because I own bitches.